A Working Mom (Outside The Home)

So, I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the whole work-life balance and the idea that working outside the home can actually be a good thing for me and my future offspring. I read an article recently about children from households where the mother worked outside the home (no matter the total hours) and the impact that has on their future.

Women whose moms worked outside the home are more likely to have jobs themselves, are more likely to hold supervisory responsibility at those jobs, and earn higher wages than women whose mothers stayed home full time, according to research by Kathleen McGinn and colleagues.

This is encouraging news! I believe that showing children that women can be successful outside the home helps them believe that they, too, can be successful outside the home. Not to say that being a SAHM is a bad thing, just that women who work outside the home shouldn’t feel like they are doing their children a disservice.

“In a new study of 50,000 adults in 25 countries, daughters of working mothers completed more years of education, were more likely to be employed and in supervisory roles and earned higher incomes. Having a working mother didn’t influence the careers of sons, which researchers said was unsurprising because men were generally expected to work — but sons of working mothers did spend more time on child care and housework.” (NY Times)

This new study is part of a shift away from focusing on whether working mothers put their children at a disadvantage and toward a richer understanding of the relationship between work and family. I especially like the note about how sons of working mothers took on greater responsibilities around the home. This demonstrates that so much of how we are as adults is shaped by our experiences as children. Children who grow up with a father who takes a more active role in the child-rearing and housework influence their children by modeling more egalitarian behavior.

“There’s a lot of parental guilt about having both parents working outside the home,” McGinn says. “But what this research says to us is that not only are you helping your family economically—and helping yourself professionally and emotionally if you have a job you love—but you’re also helping your kids. So I think for both mothers and for fathers, working both inside and outside the home gives your kids a signal that contributions at home and at work are equally valuable, for both men and women. In short, it’s good for your kids.”

My mother both worked full-time when I was little and was a SAHM for a season when my sisters were born. She went back to work full-time when my sisters were in Elementary School. My step-father never took an active role around the house (unless you include repairs and outside work) and I vividly remember my mother being solely responsible for many of the domestic chores.

Craig is the main cook in our house and he’s very good about taking out the trash and doing home maintenance. I tend to be the one who does the dishes, and laundry, and indoor cleaning. I feel like we split our duties rather evenly. So, I’d love to know about you! Did you have a mom who worked outside the home? Did you have a father who took a more active role in the housework? How are your duties now as an adult? Please share! 🙂

Whole World In His Hands

Sometimes my anxiety and depression gets the best of me and I start feeling very overwhelmed. When I think about how much my life will change by adding another life to our mix (that I created!) I get to feeling like it might be too much to handle. On top of all that future possibility is the reality that I’m already dealing with the stress of losing some very dear family members quite recently. Life can be so tough and yet so full of promise and possibility.

Sometimes I just need to step back and remind myself that He’s got the WHOLE world in His hands. He is in control. He will make things work for the good of His purpose. I pray that you will know what it feels like to know that God is for us and not against us, that God is always by our side and on our side, and that no matter the circumstances, God will not leave us to walk this earth alone.

by Christy Nockels

“I fear no evil for You are with me
Strong to deliver, mighty to save
He’s got the whole world in His hands”

 

Your Grace Is Enough

Hi there! Happy Hump Day to you! Today I’m sharing with you one of my favorite Matt Maher songs. I especially love this acoustic version.

Sometimes I feel like I just can’t ever “get it right” and that I’ll never be “good enough” and then this song reminds me that it’s not about being good but about God’s goodness and mercy. He loves me no matter what. He wants me to do good things for him but when I fall short (and I always will) He reminds me that nothing can separate me from His love.

I hope this song touches you today and gives you encouragement to see out the end of the week. Friday is coming! 🙂

by Matt Maher

“Great is Your faithfulness, oh God
You wrestle with the sinner’s restless heart
You lead us by still waters and to mercy
And nothing can keep us apart”

The Heart

NeedToBreathe is one of my favorite bands right now. Just about every song speaks to me in some way. I love the style of the music and the lyrics have so much depth. If there’s ever a time when I’m needing a “pick-me-up” I will put on one of their songs.

Today I’m sharing with you their song, The Heart. The band NeedToBreathe are from South Carolina and their banjo and mandolin playing just make me tap my foot along with the music and I love it. The song Brother just moves me like no other. I can play it over and over. And Multiplied makes me just drop to my knees. So. Good. Plus, their entire new album is just fantastic. Check out Rivers In The Wasteland. You won’t be disappointed.

by NeedToBreathe

“Got’sta make hay when the sun is shinin’
Can’t waste time when it comes time to dance”

A Music Interlude – Because He Lives

This week I’m posting a short interlude of music to capture some of my thoughts lately. I’ll be back next week with more “meaty” posts. I hope these songs touch you in some way or offer comfort if you’re needing support.

I’m sharing with you Because He Lives by Matt Maher. He’s an excellent artist and I love listening to him perform. All The People Said Amen makes me sing along at the top of my lungs. I just love it. He’s so authentic in his faith and his songs are a reflection of his beliefs in a way that so few people can capture. Check out his music when you get a chance.

“Amen, Amen
Let my song join the one that never ends
Because He lives”