What! What?

So, hey y’all, hey!

Um, yeah, I kinda found out I was pregnant and dropped off the face of the earth.

Sorry about that!

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Aug 2, 2015 marked 9 years since I had started blogging. NINE YEARS! I found out the news my grandfather had passed away the day that I found out I was pregnant. Which was barely over a year since I had lost both my step-father and my biological father (a month apart). It all seemed rather overwhelming and I couldn’t find the words I wanted to say. I had so much to say and yet nothing would come out.

:::Flash Forward:::

I’m now going on my twelfth year of blogging sporadically and I am almost at two years past the birth of my son. I’m feeling like sharing again so I reactivated this account and hooked it up to Instagram (which I’m participating in far more often) and Facebook (which just serves to piss me off on a daily basis but I can’t seem to quit) and here I am today.

The impetus for the blog renewal has to do with my son, actually. Last night we were outside in the backyard and he walked over and handed me a piece of dog poop. Yes, you read that correctly. GROSS! So, after telling him, NO, poop is gross, we don’t touch poop, and then a wash of the hands, he did it AGAIN! YUCK. NO.

The story is much funnier in person so I decided to create an Instagram Story. Then, someone asked if I could make it public so others could see and I didn’t feel comfortable with my entire account being public so I activated my Tin Cup Chalice account and now you’re all caught up! I hope to be more prolific with my writing and now that I have an almost two year old I have a feeling this will not be a very difficult task. Be sure to subscribe to my posts so you receive direct notice and be sure to follow me on Instagram and Facebook (and soon to come, YouTube).

Since most of you readers are my friends I’ll take a moment to say thank you for sticking by me and for keeping up with my life and for humoring me with your attention to my crazy stories. Love y’all! Mean it!

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Whole World In His Hands

Sometimes my anxiety and depression gets the best of me and I start feeling very overwhelmed. When I think about how much my life will change by adding another life to our mix (that I created!) I get to feeling like it might be too much to handle. On top of all that future possibility is the reality that I’m already dealing with the stress of losing some very dear family members quite recently. Life can be so tough and yet so full of promise and possibility.

Sometimes I just need to step back and remind myself that He’s got the WHOLE world in His hands. He is in control. He will make things work for the good of His purpose. I pray that you will know what it feels like to know that God is for us and not against us, that God is always by our side and on our side, and that no matter the circumstances, God will not leave us to walk this earth alone.

by Christy Nockels

“I fear no evil for You are with me
Strong to deliver, mighty to save
He’s got the whole world in His hands”

 

Your Grace Is Enough

Hi there! Happy Hump Day to you! Today I’m sharing with you one of my favorite Matt Maher songs. I especially love this acoustic version.

Sometimes I feel like I just can’t ever “get it right” and that I’ll never be “good enough” and then this song reminds me that it’s not about being good but about God’s goodness and mercy. He loves me no matter what. He wants me to do good things for him but when I fall short (and I always will) He reminds me that nothing can separate me from His love.

I hope this song touches you today and gives you encouragement to see out the end of the week. Friday is coming! 🙂

by Matt Maher

“Great is Your faithfulness, oh God
You wrestle with the sinner’s restless heart
You lead us by still waters and to mercy
And nothing can keep us apart”

The Heart

NeedToBreathe is one of my favorite bands right now. Just about every song speaks to me in some way. I love the style of the music and the lyrics have so much depth. If there’s ever a time when I’m needing a “pick-me-up” I will put on one of their songs.

Today I’m sharing with you their song, The Heart. The band NeedToBreathe are from South Carolina and their banjo and mandolin playing just make me tap my foot along with the music and I love it. The song Brother just moves me like no other. I can play it over and over. And Multiplied makes me just drop to my knees. So. Good. Plus, their entire new album is just fantastic. Check out Rivers In The Wasteland. You won’t be disappointed.

by NeedToBreathe

“Got’sta make hay when the sun is shinin’
Can’t waste time when it comes time to dance”

The Happy Housewife?

So, remember when I was talking about trying to get pregnant this year? Yeah, so, one of the things that I struggle with is the desire to be a SAHM. I feel like the best person to spend day-in and day-out with my future child is myself. I have half a graduate degree dedicated to early-childhood education and I feel like no one else could do a better job than myself.

BUT… Could I really hack it as a stay at home mom? Would I be a “happy housewife” if given the opportunity? I can barely keep up after myself, let alone my husband and dog, add another human to the mix and I’m just not sure. I’ve mentioned before that my husband is a former chef and he does most (read: all) the cooking. I’ve tried to take a more active role but I just suck at it and it’s not fun for me but I know that once this baby comes I’m going to have to step up.

I even tried Blue Apron (total fail… that’s a post for another time) and it kinda helped out but mostly just reminded me of how bad I suck at cooking. I’m not creative in the kitchen and I have no idea about flavor profiles and, well, any of the “rules”… I once used red wine instead of white wine in a dish because that’s what we had on hand and didn’t know that was not going to work.

I definitely didn’t get the training my husband did. My mother is really good at frozen vegetables and plain chicken. We ate a lot of meatloaf and mashed potatoes growing up. In her defense my step-father had a terribly picky palate. I also didn’t get any cooking skills from my biological father’s side of the family. I mean, let’s be honest, my grandmother makes Jell-O salads with her dinners and considers them a legitimate side dish. Lettuce on the plate cafeteria style and all. It was what you did in the 50s and besides, my grandpa loves it.

A recent study shows that working moms have healthier, more successful kids (Psychology Today). I believe this is because many people over-parent and do more harm than good. Working outside the home will keep my brain engaged in higher-level thinking and will keep me from getting over-invested in my child’s well-being. I know that I tend to be a smother-er with my affection (ask Craig) and I would hate to over-do it with my child.

So, I’ve started looking into high-quality day-care facilities in the area and really preparing myself for the reality of being a mom who works outside the home. My working mom friends talk endlessly about the “juggle” you maintain when there aren’t enough hours in the day. Thankfully I have a great job with a lot of flexibility. I am grateful for the ability to get away as needed and I think that will help. Overall I’m excited about the future. Having a full-time job will keep us in a position financially to travel often and to expose our child to the great wonders of the world and that’s a good thing.

 

So, what about you? What are your thoughts on the subject? Any SAHM’s out there? WAHM‘s? Full-time workers? How do you maintain a balance? Help me out here… I want your advice!

P.S. Here’s an interesting take (Being a Stay-at-Home Mom is not a Job). I tend to agree with this article. I mean, as a full-time worker outside the home I will still have to find time to cook and clean and maintain the home but I’ll also be gone for the majority of the day. Thoughts?