For My Husband I Pray… Week 3

Monday – That our physical intimacy would be a positive reflection of selfless love. (Song of Solomon 7:10) How perfect is this subject today as we inch closer toward Valentine’s day? A former pastor of mine did an amazing series on the Song of Solomon and when I think of Godly relationships I remember his words. Pastor Joby discussed the things that women need to look for in men and the things men need to look for in women and he went on to discuss the importance of intimacy and agape love. Physical intimacy is not about a fulfillment of needs but rather the fulfillment of God’s desire for our marriage. Men receive their love from us through physical touch much like we receive our love from them through words of devotion and admiration. When we recognize that the effort we put forth to show our husband the love they deserve we are rewarded with the attention we crave.

  • Lord Jesus, I ask that You help me to remember just how important physical intimacy is to my relationship with my husband. I ask that you encourage me to shower my husband with affection even when I am not feeling like giving it my all for I know that it is through selfless love that we strengthen our bond. Help us to always remember Your grand design and just how fun it is when we come together as husband and wife. Thank you for Your encouragement to seek out and show my husband love as you have designed for us. Amen.

Tuesday – That the men in his life would encourage his accountability before God, and that he would be a godly influence on his friends and coworkers. (Proverbs 13:20, 27:17) We are told time and time again how important it is to choose good friends and how much of an influence they have over our lives, more so than even our parents. As iron sharpens iron so one influences another. I don’t think we really take time to focus on our friendships and cultivate those who seek to build us up and not break us down. The men in my husband’s life can either encourage him to work hard at his relationship with me or they can encourage him to move on. We just don’t realize what a great influence they have over our lives. We need to encourage our husbands to seek out friendships with other men of faith who will seek to encourage accountability with God and with his family. If your husband is hanging out with “the wrong crowd” give your concerns to God that He may send some good men into his life that will serve to be a positive influence.

  • Heavenly Father, I come before you today to praise you for your divine intervention in our lives. You make all things work together for your good. I ask that you continue to help my husband develop positive healthy Christian relationships that will encourage his walk with You and his relationship with me. Help him to counsel his friends with Godly wisdom as they seek out guidance. Help him to develop friendships that seek to build up and not break down. Help him to continue to study your word and to use that knowledge in his daily life. In all his relationships may they ever glorify You. Amen.

Wednesday – That he would choose healthy foods and activities, and honor God by taking the best possible care of his body as the tabernacle of God. (1 Corinthians 6:19) Living a healthy lifestyle isn’t just something that is good for us… it’s is a command from above. Just like we are commanded to be good stewards of the earth we are commanded to be good stewards of our bodies. Thankfully my husband is well aware of our health and takes good care of himself while encouraging me to do the same. It is so easy for Christians to point the finger at sins like smoking or adultery or the like and completely miss their own sin of gluttony. The context of this passage in the bible is in relation to sexual immorality but if we only focus on that aspect of our bodies we are missing the point. Everything on earth is God’s creation. We must remember that He created us to be a city on a hill; a lamp to the darkness. How are we to reach others if we can’t even take care ourselves. This does not mean, however, that we are a lost cause. We may slip now and then after all we are all sinners in need of God’s grace. This does mean that we should do our best with what we are given.

  • Lord, I thank you for giving us this amazing body that turns food from the earth into nourishment for ourselves. Thank you for the ability to glorify you daily. I ask that you give my husband the strength to resist temptation. I ask that you help us both to honor you through being good stewards of all that we are given, including our bodies. Each day we are confronted with the “easy way” and we know that we should follow your path even if it may not be “easy” so we ask you for your help to daily choose the better option. Amen.

Thursday – For his strength — physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. (Ephesians 3:16-19) Each day we fight battles; whether it be a battle of the mind, a battle of the body, or a battle of the spirit. Verse 19 hopes that we are “filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.” I know that the more time I spend in the word the more prepared I am when entering battle. I know that I need to encourage my husband to work diligently at conditioning his health for he gains much from wise counsel. God gives us the wisdom we need in his great book. Taking care of our bodies is just the first step. We must also take care of our minds. We are engaged in daily spiritual warfare as the devil seeks to remind you of your weaknesses and when we spend quality time developing our relationship with God we are given the strength we need to fight the good fight.

  • Thank you heavenly Father for your guidance you have provided to us through your written word. Help us to prepare for our daily battles by seeking out our relationship with you. Father, I ask that you help my husband to make time for you and to help the daily strength he needs as he is filled with your love. Our bodies are your temple. We treat our bodies with care and we are greatly rewarded. We treat our bodies as garbage and we suffer. Help us to remember all the wisdom you have provided and to always seek the good in any situation.Thank you for the ability to choose you. Amen.

Friday – For him to have wisdom and discernment in training/disciplining our children, and that You would enable him to love them unconditionally. (Ephesians 6:4) Children are a legacy you leave behind. I’ve mentioned before that children learn what they live. Verses 1-4 in Ephesians are useful words on parenting. Although our children are taught to obey in the commandments fathers are taught that they shouldn’t take advantage of this. We know that overbearing parents have children who rebel. If we want our children to grow up into healthy prosperous adults we must utilize wisdom and discernment with our parenting. Though Craig and I do not yet have children I know that he will be a great father. The word discipline has the same root as the word disciple which basically translates as apprentice. God shows us that the proper way to make disciples is through discipline (or training). When we realize that discipline is not about punishment but rather guidance it shapes our parenting.

  • Father God, thank you for your word. Thank you for the guidance you have so graciously provided us through the wisdom provided through your son, Jesus. We know that you love us with an unconditional (or agape) love. Help my husband to have this agape love for our children and to utilize wisdom and discernment. Help my husband to always seek your guidance when confronted with challenges. As you take us by the hand and lead us may we take our children by the hand and show them your ways both through example and through discipline. Amen

Saturday – That he would always have an eternal perspective, and make the most of however much time he has in this life. (Ephesians 5:16) Christ’s love was not cautious but extravagant. We should not waste our time on fruitless pursuits. Though God has given us the joy of sport and other diversions we should always look to the end and work toward our the ultimate goal of making disciples of all nations. How we live out daily life demonstrates our love for Christ. So, watch your step, use your head, make the most of every chance you get, and don’t live carelessly. Each day we have various choices to make. Though we may stumble, ultimately we should be choosing the path of righteousness.

  • Lord, I pray that you continually bind my husband’s heart to yours. Help him to make smart choices and to always think eternally. Help him to seek out the good and the righteousness of your kingdom. Help my husband to make the most of his time here on earth through study of your word, devotion to our marriage, as well as an agape love for is family and friends. We are commanded to love as you first loved us. Help us to always remember our ultimate goal and eternal promise. Amen

Sunday – That he would always be a man of peace, who allows the Holy Spirit to lead his responses in all situations. (Romans 14:19) What a wise passage we find in this part of Romans centered on “The Law of Love!” The bible does not condemn alcohol but rather the act of drunkenness and the possible corruption of the weak minded. The bible does not condemn food in itself but rather the act of gluttony and the temptation toward selfish behavior. We need our husbands to allow the Holy Spirit to guide decision making. It is through a robust relationship with the heavenly Father that our husbands are able to utilize wise discernment when confronted with difficult situations.

  • Lord Jesus, thank you for your wisdom. Thank you for the ability to look to you for guidance and for the ability to make wise decisions. I ask that you help my husband to keep a peaceful heart that is always looking to you to lead him down paths of righteousness. Help me to encourage my husband to spend time in the word so he may develop a stronger ability to to discern the truth. Help us single-mindedly serve you. Help us to please you by proving your worth to the people around us. Help us to set a good example and a source of strength and encouragement to others. Amen.