So, y’all… this is one crazy busy month. For reals. Just for fun, here is a sampling of some of the plans I have going on right now.
- 12/2 – Book Club
- 12/3 – Double date with Trish and Glen
- 12/4 – Harmonious Monks with the girls
- 12/5 – Brunch with Vicky, Church, Happy Hour with one friend and then Dinner with another
- 12/6 – Final class meeting at my professor’s house
- 12/7 – Small group at church
- 12/8 – Dinner with Amanda and Jeannie
- 12/9 – Champagne tasting at The Grotto
- 12/10 – Stitch-N-Bitch with the girls
- 12/11 – Ugly Christmas Sweater Party
- 12/13 – Holiday Party during the day at work
- 12/14 – Small group at church
- 12/15 – Last dinner with Amanda before she moves to Nashville
- 12/16 – Seven22 with my friend Wendy
- 12/17 – Holiday Party after work
- 12/18 – Ice Skating with the Beach BUMS
- 12/19 – Drive to G’ma B’s in SW FL
- 12/20 – Get car worked on
- 12/21 – Drive to Flagler for Christmas with Mom, Dad, Ashley, and Lauren (and her new husband, Josh)
- 12/28 – Back home to my house
- 12/31 – New Years Eve festivities
I’m actually excited about all of it! I have purposefully declined some things and I know I’m much busier than most but I truly am looking forward to each part of this month. Most importantly I have made the decision to stick with just one family this Christmas eve/day.
Why is it that everyone waits until this month to try and get together? Why aren’t we better about getting together more often throughout the year? My good friend is seriously stressed out because of Christmas. She has 4 different places to be between Christmas eve and Christmas day and only one in the same town as her. The stress isn’t worth it. The worst part of it is that her significant other is the one who is causing this stress by his inability to cut the umbilical cord to his mother.
I wish this was uncommon… but I hear about it too much. With women. With men. People need to stop rushing and just remember the reason for the season. It’s not about spending Christmas eve with this family and waking up Christmas morning with this family and then rushing over to this other family member’s house later that day only to feel guilty that you never made it to so and so’s.
I know she won’t mind me sharing her story because I know that no one knows who she is and more importantly there are many of us out there who are going through the same thing!
We need to remember the most important part of this whole month and that is the gathering of friends and family for the birth of our Savior. Cut out the BS. Don’t go to that party you don’t want to. Don’t feel obligated to go to a distant cousin’s dinner because you’re worried that some family member is going to guilt you for not being a team player.
JUST SAY NO.
LOL. In all seriousness, if you enjoy doing lots of stuff (like I do) then that’s one thing… but if you are feeling super stressed because you have too much on your plate then take a time out. It’s okay. It is perfectly acceptable to take this time for some serious R&R.
Think about it. What WOULD Jesus Do? I doubt that He’d be traveling on the roads three times in one day just so He can make an appearance at each family member’s house for whatever reason. The people who you don’t see will just have to get over it and see you on another day. I realize that most of us come from divorced parents but I make sure that I chose one each year and I suggest you do the same. If people want to travel up to see you, good for them, but don’t feel like you need to run all across town because otherwise they’ll give you a hard time.
Take this time to be selfish. Take this time to remember the simplicity of the Savior’s birth. A lowly manger… no room at the Inn. No extended family. No giant turkey dinner. Just a simple night of worship is all we need. God bless you all as you attempt to navigate the rough waters of this holiday season. Try and take some time out for what’s truly important and be safe out there!