A lack of options?

OMG. Look at that jacket … was “winning the lottery” and “finding a sugar momma” too high of a bar to set for yourself? I love People of Walmart because it just emphasizes why I don’t go in to that place, but this right here wasn’t disgusting or anything but just SAD. SAD. SAD.

Please tell me why this is still the pervading philosophy amongst so many people, even in this modern world we live in?And don’t tell me that it’s lack of education because I have students at my college who still have this mentality despite not only getting accepted to college but also receiving full financial aid.

There is this thought process so many younger people have where they think that education is not important. I’m not just talking about those from the “ghetto” but average middle class citizens. I hear people all the time talk about what sport they’re going to go professional in or how they’re going to “make it big” … well not everyone who plays high school ball gets into college and not all who play college ball get into the pros. The only sure thing you can trust in is yourself and your education in order to succeed.

I know quite a few people who have risen from “the ghetto” or from poor migrant status or poor farmer or physical and emotional abuse, etc. who have made a wonderful life for themselves that does not include selling drugs. What happened to good old fashioned hard work? It is not the easiest to bring yourself up from the very bottom but it is possible.

I do not believe that if you are “disadvantaged” then that is all there is for you … I know too many success stories. But you know what all those people had in common? They all had DRIVE. They all had a WILL to survive. They wouldn’t let their situation define them. They believed they could overcome against all odds. I truly believe that if you think you can … you will. So, no excuses people. No excuses for prostitution or drugs or a general apathy about life in general.

Make smart choices. Don’t have cable TV, don’t get your nails done, don’t buy the new car, don’t buy the new cell phone or the X-Box 360 unless you have extra cash lying around. If I can do it, so can you.

Okay, I’m down off my soap-box now … but for reals y’all … I have lived without cable television for 7 years now and haven’t been worse for the wear. 😉

So what are your thoughts???


8 thoughts on “A lack of options?

  1. Some of those things, i.e. becoming a pro ball player, becoming a rap star, take an amazing amount of hard work, drive, ambition, and perserverence, whether kids know it or not. I have the firm belief that with a little drive and a “never give up” attitude you can be ANYTHING you want. ANYTHING. Yes, education is the most obvious human right, but some of those kids living with low incomes but big aspirations don’t know anyone who is educated. Their parents aren’t, their role models that they see on TV never talk about it. All they see is how successful their idols are, and they want to do the same. They are products of what they see in the media and their environment. Some kid in the ghetto isn’t going to say, “I wanna be an accountant and make a mediocre salary”, no one grows up saying that. The kids who have decided to pursue an education still want the most lucrative job without having to put in a lot of work…isn’t that what everyone wants? While that’s not the reality of life, that’s the DREAM of everyone. Who am I to tell some college kid there’s a 1 in 400 chance they’ll make it pro? I’m not going to kill their dreams. These kids are in college because they have to be, and they dream big because they’re young and optimistic, and they know in the back of their minds they need something to fall back on, but I only went to college because you are shunned in society if you don’t. It doesn’t mean we’re not working hard. There are many executives/CEO’s who don’t hold degrees. They started their own company, or made their way up the ranks through experience and dedication. Lots of lucrative jobs don’t require degrees. Now, while that’s not ideal, normal, or safe, I can see where these kids are getting their mentalities from. It seems as time goes on, our generations get stronger and stronger, creating new jobs, creating more technology and mastering it, and creating more entrepenural opportunities for themselves, and everyone thinks they can be a part of it somehow. Its not that they don’t believe in hard work, its just that they have a different world view of what one would label “appropriate” goals. There aren’t a lack of options, there’s just a lack of interest in those options. Who wants to sit at a computer everyday, or make cold calls, or ride the subway back and forth?

    1. Please do not misunderstand me by what I posted. In no way am I trying to discourage people from pursuing their dreams. Please understand that the people I speak of are the ones who are not making the smart decisions. The ones failing all their courses and using FinAid as an easy ride. The ones who sell drugs and think that’s the only way out of poverty. The ones who don’t have the talent needed to make it big but instead insist that’s the only way out.

      Please understand that I’m not trying to kill people’s dreams and I don’t give a lecture to each student who comes up and plops their Prada bag on the counter, whips out their iPhone and starts playing with it with their manicured fake nails and then gives me a sob story about how they can’t pay their rent that month and how much they need the FinAid. THIS is the point I’m making.

      The real world sucks, yes, and you’re right, some kids don’t want to grow up to be accountants. The point was that there are more than two options in this life, becoming famous or selling drugs are not the only ones.

  2. You opened the floor to thoughts, so I thought I’d comment. I didn’t read anything about kids not being able to pay their rent, or rich kids who make bad grades and complain, yet still drive Audis and live in their parents’ condo. I was drawn to the parts about will, drive, and overcoming your hardships.
    Sorry, I misunderstood! Love you!

  3. NO, thanks for commenting! I just didn’t want you to think I was heartless! And I hope that it showed through that my point was what I said in the paragraph about overcoming against all odds using their drive and not excuses. So, I hope that made sense. LOVE YOU TOO. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

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