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My New iPhone :-)
YAY! Craig gave me his 4 when he upgraded to the 4s so here I am playing with my new phone. I hope that this helps me post more. We’ll see…
Anyway I hope y’all are doing well and that y’all had a fabulous Thanksgiving!
Craig made some fabulous dinners this past week so I thought I’d share. First up is this pork and black bean and corn combination.
Then he made this awesome salmon dill pasta dish that was super yummy! I’m very lucky that he loves to cook.
All Over The Place
Hey y’all… just a little update. I know that I suck at blogging. I feel like all I have to share is, “Went to the store today. Craig made beef short-ribs. Had dinner with my friend the other day. I hate this weather, etc.” so I’ve just been avoiding posting altogether. SORRY.
Life has been super busy lately. Per usual. My sister, Lauren, and her husband, Josh, bought their first home and I got to go visit and check out their new digs. It’s very nice. A double lot in Palm Coast. Four bedrooms. Quite large. It was a short sale but in great condition. They had a Halloween party as a housewarming. Too cute.
Craig and I are still doing well. I’m a very happy girl. This past weekend we visited his mom in Darien on Saturday and then met my parents in St. Augustine for the Great Chowder Debate on Sunday. It rained out around halfway through. We ended up driving down to Flagler and spending a little more time with them before coming back home.
This Friday Craig and I are traveling to Live Oak to spend the day at the Bear Creek Music Festival. Should be a fun time and we might even camp overnight. We’re also thinking about heading to Savannah this weekend. I still haven’t had a chance to meet Craig’s dad. Also, my mom and dad will be in Savannah so it will be fun to meet up with them.
The 19th we’re going to see Fusebox Funk at Mojo’s in Jax Beach. My friend, Jim Starr, plays the trombone. It should be a lot of fun. Then on Sunday, November 20th, Craig and I are headed to a friend’s to watch the football game. Stacey and Brey were married in August. It will be nice to hang out with them.
My sister, Ashley, is coming home for Thanksgiving so instead of driving to my grandma’s like I usually do, I’ll be hanging out in Flagler. I’m hoping that Craig will be able to come down on Saturday so he can spend some time with us and meet Ashley. He will be spending the holiday with his family in GA.
I think that’s the hardest thing about a new relationship… not being together for the holidays. Hopefully next year we’ll be married and won’t have to do this all over again. The two weeks we were apart while I was in California and he was in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan were so hard. I miss him so much when he’s not around. We spend most every day together. We go to church together. We pray together. We eat together. We wake up together. I love it.
Anyway, you’re pretty much up to speed. I’ve been trying to get some photos from my trip loaded to Facebook and it refuses to work. I’ve talked with others and they’re having the same problem so I guess I just need to let FB work out the kinks and try again. Maybe Sunday night I’ll give it another go. Once I have the photos uploaded I’ll do a post for y’all and share with you all the details of my Northern California trip. I had a great time.
Hope y’all are doing well! God bless!
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Yesterday Today Tomorrow
Today I went in and cancelled my eHarmony account. Hard to believe it’s only been 3 short months and that things have turned out the way they have. Hard to believe that the site actually worked the way it promises. Hard to believe that I really truly am this freakin happy.
Yet, here I am.
Craig and I have been having some serious conversations lately. We’ve been spending about 4 out of the 7 days a week together. He seeks out time to spend with me. He has given me a drawer. He wants me around. A lot. More importantly, I want to be around him. A lot.
Y’all… I really am the happiest I’ve ever been. It’s super weird. Most of the time I don’t really know what to do with myself and all that I am feeling. It’s kinda scary. Like, all those times before when I thought I was happy. I had no freakin clue what happiness really was.
THIS is happiness.
I can’t imagine not having Craig in my life. I like being with him. I like the conversations/discussions/debates we have. I like when we both just sit and read and that we don’t have to constantly entertain each other. I like cuddling with him on the couch while we watch a movie. I like riding bikes with him up and down 1st street. I like sitting on his porch and watching the waves crash on the ocean.
I love how he kisses me so very sweetly and sincerely and so very often. He never misses a moment to kiss me. I’m in the kitchen grabbing a glass of water and he walks by and kisses me. I’m in the bathroom brushing my teeth and he comes over and kisses me. I’m reading a book on the couch and he’s working in the office and randomly he’ll just come out and walk over and give me a kiss and then go back to work.
Last night he came with me to church. As we were walking out he put his hand on my shoulder. He likes to hold on to me and I love that about him. When we’re in the car he reaches over and grabs my hand. When we’re walking on the beach he is holding my hand. When we’re walking from the car to the restaurant he even grabs my hand.

He talks a lot about our future. He uses the terms “us” and “our” regularly. He genuinely wants me in his life for better or worse till death do us part and that makes me very happy because I feel the same. I just keep thinking about everything I’ve been through in my life. How I really thought, at times, that I was truly happy but I really didn’t know what happiness really was. We’re very comfortable. We have tough discussions. We talk about the future. We work out our differences. We are a team.
So, this is the big update that’s taken me a while to write. I know that I haven’t posted as much as I had planned. I really was going to document more about the whole eHarmony thing but it really ended up much simpler and wasn’t as drawn out as I expected.
This is a good thing.
I can honestly say that they know what they are doing. It feels a little weird to answer the question of how we met… but in this era, online matchmaking is gaining momentum. I mean, think about it, in the past our communities were much more tight-knit. We had someone in our life that was more than willing to introduce us to someone interesting. We had social circles and much more free-time and different chances to meet people. In addition, most people got married before they began their careers either to their High School or College sweetheart.
Today, we are working more and taking our time to really be sure that we’re making a solid decision that will last a life time. I can’t tell you how many people I know who have been divorced. In America, we have nearly a 50/50 chance that a marriage will end in divorce. Craig and I have talked extensively about how we feel regarding that subject. Both of us have divorced parents. We’ve seen first hand what that means and we want to be sure that the person we marry is the person we spend the rest of our life with. End. Of. Story.
So, we’re definitely taking this relationship seriously and trying our best to lay a solid foundation. I ask that you continue to pray for us. That our relationship is strengthened and that we continue to make our relationship with Christ our number one priority because that is what will sustain us for the long-term.
Thanks so much for following along in this journey and I look forward to sharing the many more adventures that lie ahead. God bless y’all.
really!?!
Well, it happened… I finally received communication from my biological father. This was the text he sent me: “Still the silence? My love has always been the same good or bad times that’s what being your dad is. Love you. Dad.”
REALLY!?!
I mean, he literally doesn’t get it. He really has no idea what’s going on. THIS, folks, is why I’m partially insane. Remember how I said that when he did communicate he would act as if it is my fault? Yeah. Exactly. He goes and gets married for the fourth time, doesn’t invite me, doesn’t even casually mention it, shows up at a dinner with wedding bands and says nothing. But, of course, it’s my fault. I’m sure he’s thinking that I should have said something. Like it was my job to notice the rings and comment and congratulate them.
Of course, then you add the fact that he didn’t call me when my grandmother went in the hospital. But, I’m sure that’s my fault as well. I mean, if I had only noticed the rings or called more often, or whatever. Because, of course, he’s busy and needs to be forgiven for things but I have all the time in the world and it’s always the daughter to be the responsible one, right? Why not?
You know, sometimes I have such crippling insecurity. People who meet me think that I’m super confident and happy and able to do anything. I’m not. I’m a sad little girl who gets her feelings hurt very easily. I’m a sad little girl who builds up walls and sabotages relationships because of the fear. It’s like, well, I know they’re just going to forget about me and move on to something else, so I might as well just end it now. I mean, why bother putting all that effort in when you just know it’s not going to work out anyway.
THIS is what goes on in my head.
I know, it’s irrational, I’ve mentioned that before. I get it. I’ve been through therapy. I know what I need to do. I’ve read the books. I’ve studied scripture. It’s still there. It will always be there. I will never be able to get rid of the hurt. Last night, I was in full-on sabotage mode with Craig. It was awful. I tried not to but it was like the devil took over. I’m a freakin idiot. The worst part about all it it is that this was over text. I clearly could have proof-read my neurosis and edited myself to not sound crazy and yet I still hit send. It’s like deep down inside I WANT to push him away. Thankfully he hasn’t given up on me but he did say: “You make it tough pretty girl.”
That’s me. I make it tough. I ruin things before they really begin. Just when things start going well. It’s so much easier to just RUIN IT. The worst part of this whole thing is that I KNOW I’m doing it. I watch it happen. I see it come out and hear the words and yet I’m helpless to stop it. Y’all. I have such issues. I’m so thankful that y’all let me vent here.
I need to work on being better about keeping my thoughts in my head and not speaking them out-loud. I know I can do this. I know that I can be better about relaxing and going with the flow and not worrying so much and just enjoying each moment as it comes. I know I can do this. Again, I’m asking for you to continue praying. Pray that I get my shit together. Pray that I’m able to forgive my father and to stop trying to change him. Pray that I’m able to let go of the hurt and just live my life and be happy.
Thanks.
P.S. Today was a much better day than yesterday. His joy comes with the morning! Also, Craig is obviously not giving up on me because we’re going to the Jags game on Thursday evening.
The Immorality of Gluttony
If you stop by at just about any VBS event in the country, you’re likely to find pizza, chips or soda (maybe all three) being consumed by a 9-year-old. Grab a plate at many congregational fellowships in America, and chances are it’s loaded with unhealthy grub. Check any popular buffet in your town on Sunday afternoon, and you’re likely to find it’s packed with churchgoers.
Most Christian churches take pride in supporting the weak and afflicted. Well, this generation of youth is the first expected to live shorter lives than its parents.
According to the White House, nearly one in three children is overweight or obese. That’s more than 24 million kids. It is estimated that kids between the ages of 6 and 14 eat fast food 157 million times every month. Many of them will eventually suffer from diabetes, heart disease, kidney problems, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, orthopedic problems or sleep disturbances—and likely self-esteem issues.
In response to these unhealthy trends, First Lady Michelle Obama started the Let’s Move initiative to get kids active and eating healthier. Jamie Oliver spent a season of his Food Revolution show pleading for L.A. schools to produce healthier menus. But what is the church community doing to help the childhood obesity epidemic?
Maybe you have issues with the Body Mass Index (BMI) system, or perhaps you are wary a discussion on weight could promote unhealthy standards of thinness. But whatever your concerns, you can’t deny childhood obesity is a problem. For the Church, the answer is probably not a fitness ministry or a series of sermons on how McDonald’s is of the devil. But churches don’t have to step outside of their general purpose to help; in fact, healthy living fits into the Church’s mission quite nicely.
“However we address it, we can’t really do it from the perspective of making [people] feel bad about themselves,” says Steve Martin, minister at Tri-Valley Church of Christ in Livermore, Calif. “You’ve got to convey the sense that God really loves you, you are an amazing person.”
A Healthy Example
Back in 2000, each state in the union was below 25 percent obese. The CDC reports that last year, 36 states were at least 25 percent obese, with 12 of them at 30 percent or greater. And according to the Arkansas Center for Health Improvement, the risk of a child becoming obese doubles when his or her parents are obese. Obviously, adult influence factors in heavily.
Maybe step one for churches in helping curb childhood obesity is setting a better example.
What message would it send to youth if they were given fruit before worship instead of donuts? If salads were part of the meal at youth events? If helpings at church functions weren’t so gluttonous?
In the 1980s, according to the Let’s Move initiative, children had an average of one snack per day; now, 20 percent of school-age children have up to six snacks per day. Safe to say they aren’t munching on edamame.
“It’s not like we have to only serve health food,” Martin says. “But what are we really serving? Are we monitoring what kids are given? Can we really expect kids to have the spiritual maturity to be self-disciplined on this? To not want fast food?”
The answer lies in our approach. The obesity battle isn’t an individual responsibility; it’s a community effort. Research on this topic attributes childhood obesity, at least in part, to the decline of the family dinner.
As the First Lady’s Let’s Move initiative claims, 30 years ago meals were cooked at home with reasonable portion sizes and included a vegetable. Now, the family meal is Taco Bell out of paper bags on the way home. As a result, Americans are eating 31 percent more calories than 40 years ago.
By just encouraging regular family dinner, it seems churches would be helping fight childhood obesity. In addition, the spiritual benefits of sharing a meal are undeniable.
“The Christian church from the beginning would break bread in their homes,” Martin says. “Food is a good context. That, to me, is what generates the idea of the family meal. Not so much that we’re going to overeat. But because we have to stop and eat, and food is a reminder of our daily dependence on God, it is a good time to slow down. Gather as a family, be grateful for it and talk a little bit. With work schedules, that can be next to impossible. … But I think that’s worth fighting for.”
Holistic Holiness
Many churches fail to address healthy living not because they don’t consider it to be important, but because they don’t consider it to be their job. Sometimes, no matter how much evidence to their union, matters of the body are separated from matters of the spirit.
Perhaps more holistic Bible education is in order.
Scripture’s teaching certainly addresses how people should regard their body. The Bible reminds Christians their bodies belong to God because they were bought with a price (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). And that those bodies are to be living sacrifices (Romans 12:1).
People know they aren’t supposed to steal, or have premarital sex or slap people they don’t like. But do they understand their body is a marvelous blessing they’ve been entrusted to manage? Do they grasp their service to God can be maximized by healthy, functioning “temples”? Such a perspective provokes a better examination of what is consumed.
Churches have been known to educate people about financial management, political issues and job opportunities. Some youth ministries offer tutoring and help teens in the college process. So it wouldn’t be ungodly to make them aware of bad eating habits, of health risks they face or even to encourage exercise. There’s nothing wrong with holding a movie night and showing Food, Inc.
“The faith-based community is uniquely positioned … because of its concern and investment in not only the spiritual well-being of its congregation but the mental and physical health as well,” says Taco Williams, the health policy advisor for the Delta Regional Authority, which is charged with enhancing economic development and quality of life for eight states along the Mississippi River. “Churches are often seen as a trusted source for factual and helpful information. That creates an opportunity to educate and promote healthy lifestyle choices across a multi-generational spectrum, which ultimately improves the health of children across the country.”
It’s clear that an awareness of our bodies and how we treat them didn’t start with a White House campaign. It started when God turned dust into flesh and called it a man; it started when He knit each of us together, fearfully and wonderfully. Our bodies were made with care—why should they be maintained any differently?
Article courtesy of Relevant Magazine.
Marcus Thompson directs the youth and young adult ministries at the San Pablo Avenue Church of Christ in Oakland, Ca.
Does your church community address healthy living? Do you think they should, and how so?
On A Boat
Hey y’all! I think this video perfectly sums up my weekend. “I’m on a boat” “I got my flippy floppys” “Poseidon look at me” … LOL. Sorry but that video cracks me up every time. So good.
Well, this weekend I drove down to Ponce Inlet with some friends and their family and we spent both Saturday and Sunday out on the boat enjoying the beautiful weather. It was super relaxing and wonderful being on the water and spending quality time with some good friends. It was just what I needed. Things have been super stressful lately.
Saturday I drove down in he morning and after picking up sandwiches for lunch we headed out on the boat. We were just about to disappearing island when it started pouring. Not so much fun. But we were in swim suits and we were on a boat anyway so really it wasn’t that big of a deal. By the time we got back to the marina it was beautiful weather again and we spent the rest of the afternoon at the pool and then went to a restaurant on the beach for dinner. Sunday morning we got up and went out on the boat and the weather was just as nice.
I tell you what folks… I need a boat! I grew up boating with my family and it is something I truly enjoy. I really hope that I’m fortunate enough one day to own a boat of some sort and be able to take my family out on the water now and then. I really am a very lucky person to live here in the sunshine state and spend good quality time outdoors. It was a gorgeous weekend and I can’t thank the White’s enough for allowing me to tag along.
Hope that everyone had a nice weekend. This upcoming Saturday is my friend’s wedding. Hurricane Irene is headed our direction but I hope that it stays out at sea, both for the wedding and for all the people who could potentially suffer devastating losses from a major hurricane. I’m praying that it works in our favor. That is the one major drawback to living in the tropics.
Anyway, have a great week y’all. God bless!
Oh Noes
This week at work has been hellish. Programs we tested in pre-production this summer aren’t working correctly now that they’re in production and unfortunately we were pretty far into certifications before figuring this out. Awesome. In addition, the financial department on Campus has been making ridiculous demands and accusations that have made my stress level such that my persistent heartburn has returned. Even more awesome.
So, is it Friday yet?
Ohmygoodness y’all!
On a different note, I have a funny/scary/lucky story to share with you:

On the way to work as I was driving up the on-ramp I noticed an unmarked police vehicle traveling alongside me. It was fairly obvious to me but since he was going pretty fast I figured I didn’t have too much to worry about. I stayed with traffic and (luckily) the rest of the folks in my lane weren’t going as fast as they normally do.
Further down the road the cop ended up in my lane a few cars behind me and I was about 6 cars behind the leader. We traveled a ways down the road when the road finally cleared up a bit and the leader of the “fast lane” moved over. All the cars passed this guy and slowly moved back into the right lane where they should be except this one BMW convertible that was directly in front of me who insisted on switching lanes in and out of traffic to get to the head of the pack.
At this point we’re all going close to 80 in a 60 so really none of us should have been pissed about there being so many cars in the left lane. My lane continued to thin out and the cop was directly behind me ON MY ASS and speed up to try and find an opening in the right lane to get out of his way because although I could tell he wasn’t itching to pull me over (even though I was going WELL over the speed limit) I knew that he was in a hurry to get somewhere. I moved over finally and he sped by me and then ended up on some other guy’s ass in the left lane ahead.
Suddenly he switches into the right lane and then left lane passing some cars (and he was driving rather reckless if I do say so myself) so I was wondering what the heck he was doing. I didn’t think he was on duty otherwise he seriously would have and probably should have pulled my ass over because I, along with everyone else on JTB, drive well over the posted 60 MPH speed-limit.
Anyway, I see the lights in his car turn to flashing just as the BMW switches to the far right lane which I’m guessing is because he noticed (finally) that the guy was a cop and tried to play it off like he wasn’t driving faster than he should but that cop totally pulled him over! That could have totally been ME. I was going quite fast when that cop was on my ass but then again I wasn’t swerving in and out of traffic and as soon as there was an opening I moved out of his way.
I think that when traffic started lightening up we were all still doing only about 10 over and the cop must have seen that BMW swerving in and out up ahead and then taking off going well over 80. I’m guessing that the reason he was riding my ass was to get me out of the way so he could go after that guy.
THANK GOODNESS.
All I could do was laugh out loud. For reals. I kept thinking, how am I so lucky that he chose to go after the BMW and not me? I still can hardly believe it. I have no idea what made him decide to go after the other guy instead of myself but I am eternally grateful. I probably could have gotten 20 over and charged with reckless driving. That would have meant 4 points on my license and a hefty fine.
What’s interesting about this whole thing is that this past weekend I got a parking fine for parking at Mickler’s in the bushes on the side of the road. There was NOT a no parking sign even though there was one on the other side of the road so I thought that I was in the clear. Evidently I was not. What really pissed me off about the parking ticket was that the cop drew a line through the pre-printed $30 and hand-wrote $40. ARGH.
Anyway, I have decided today that I will pay the $40 gladly because God saved me from a much higher ticket and points and horribleness. I am eternally grateful for that and although I don’t know if I can really curb my speeding because I’ve tried for years and no matter how many tickets I’ve received I still haven’t slowed down much (just gotten smarter… LOL) and really I’ve pressed my luck. So, I’m going to gladly pay my parking ticket and count my blessings.
Drive safe y’all!
Keep on Dancing it’s a Sunshine Day
For you:
So, the guy I was talking to on eHarmony met up with me for breakfast last weekend. Yeah, not so much. However, there is someone else I’ve been talking to and it seems to be going well. His name is Craig. He’s very interesting and we have great conversation. He’s quite intelligent and I find that to be a major plus. In fact, sometimes I feel like I might not be able to keep up. This would probably be the first time I’ve dated someone smarter than myself and it’s thrilling. Not that I’m the smartest person out there but it’s amazing how many men I’ve dated that don’t read and have no idea what’s going on in the world outside Gator football or what the waves are going to be like this weekend. It’s a refreshing change.
As you know, I’ve been doing the C25K and so far so good. Ran again last night and did surprisingly well. This weekend I’m planning on hitting the pool on Saturday morning and then doing some stuff around the house. I still have to get all the stuff out of the guest room and take apart the bed. My friend, Bethie, is going to buy it off me so that’s a relief! Lizzie is going to move in some boxes this weekend and probably be fully moved in within the next two weeks so I have to get my stuff in order. I’m having lunch with my friend, Wendy, on Sunday and I’m excited to see her. It’s been weeks since we’ve hung out! Next week starts my busy season here at work and I’ll be quite swamped. Between the long days at work and the million things I have coming up on the weekends I probably won’t really have good down time until September. It’s all good, though. My friend, Stacey, is getting married at the end of the month and I couldn’t be more excited for her! Hope that y’all have a wonderful weekend.
Keep on dancing y’all… it’s a sunshine day!




